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I just returned from a 10-day deployment to a Midwestern
University that was the site of a recent campus tragedy. While I was “boots on
the ground” as a part of a faith-based response team, I took some time during
my daily assignments to just sit with God and observe and assess the impacted
students, staff, faculty, nearby residents and first responders from the public
safety sector.
I was interested in finding out if there truly was a difference
in the methods they each selected to deal with the tragedy and its aftermath. I
found, as I expected I would, widespread impact across the entire spectrum of
the community’s inhabitants. Their status did not seem to matter in the least.
Cops, Students and others tried to ignore the impact of the incident unless
they were in some way directly impacted through the first, second or third
degree of separation.
The initial outpouring of sympathy was intrinsically valid,
however, it appeared that a large portion of that outpouring was primarily based
on emotion and was not a covenant-based expression. Covenants are life-long
promises like those that God has made with man, not like those man has
frequently made with God. Covenants require a deep level of commitment. Well
meaning souls, I am sure, meant to show those who were and those who they thought
were undergoing some sort of crisis, due to the critical incident that had
recently occurred, just how much they cared for them. This well intentioned
emotion was just that, emotion.
I hate to say it but I have felt that we are a tragedy-oriented
society for some time. I seem to have come to that realization somewhere back along my law
enforcement career. I think that people will only deeply react and make commitments when
they are personally impacted within the first three degrees of separation.
We also make assumptions that do not always turn out to be
valid when analyzed at length. It is a very common practice to make decisions
and assessments that are based on their own experiences and cultures, thus assuming that
everyone else will react the way they would react. I am sure most folks in the
affected community felt that the atrociousness of the incident would impact
everyone the same way. It was obvious to me that for many reasons that did not
nor does it always prove to be a valid assumption. There are many ways a person
suffers wounds and they will not always be evident nor will every “wounded
warrior” display the same effects.
When I was in combat as a US Marine, I could depend on
other Marines to handle the quick “First Aid” needs I might require to keep me
in the fight. If my wounds were more severe I knew I could count on the
“corpsman” assigned to my unit to take what ever steps necessary to “triage” my
case and take the indicated actions or send me “up channel” to the battalion
aid station where some Navy Doctor would put as much effort as necessary into
getting me back in the war.
Spiritual,
psychological and emotional wounds
required the same type of First Aid and triage. They also, however,
require a
“Spiritual Corpsman” to make those wound assessments and there are all
too few
qualified spiritual corpsmen among those professing to be members of
our Christian Army. If we are to successfully treat our own wounded
brethren, we will need
to train more folks to recognize and attend these special types of
wounds
impacting the lives of other Christians.
Troubles and challenges will always be found along life’s
highway. In fact, in my humble opinion, there are only two types of warriors in God’s Army, “Wounded
Warriors” and liars. Everyone of us Christian Soldiers has endured more than one unfair,
difficult or painful situations and earned more than one “Sacred Heart” in battle I am
sure.
When considering “Triage” it is not such an important issue
whether we consider ourselves wounded or not or in need of treatment or not.
What is important is that someone other than ourselves does the triage. They
will do a better job of determining the answers to the following questions:
1.
Which of the victim’s wounds needs treatment?
2.
How the wounds will affect the victim?
3.
How far along the recovery process is the victim?
4.
Can the victim’s wounds make them a stronger person?
5.
Can God use the experience to His glory?
Before we try and explore the types of wounds you might have
experienced or are currently suffering from I would like to ask you a simple
question. Be honest with yourself. Have
you ever experienced or are you now experiencing any degree of the following:
Anger, Fear, Depression, Insecurity, Irritability, Defensiveness, Confusion,
Negativity, Melancholy or hopelessness? These are what medical personnel would
call symptoms. These symptoms will
indicate to a spiritual corpsman that somewhere down deep within, our hearts
have been wounded and are as yet not healed. So Wounded Warrior it is time to
learn a little about just what kinds of wounds we might expect to suffer when
we engage in spiritual warfare.
There are many different types and sources of spiritual,
psychological and emotional wounds a person might suffer as they journey
through life.
- Physical
wounds – These are wounds that generally require qualified
medical attention. Your physical body hosts your psychological, emotional
and spiritual welfare. We need it to maneuver through the physical world
in which we exist. Your body is
impacted by disease, injury, genetic imperfections, accident or aging.
When it experiences these wounds you are forced to temporarily or
permanently limit your potential or interact with life in a different
manner. The key to recovering from these wounds may be found in accepting
treatment, then rehabilitating the body and returning to the journey when
your strength and mobility returns. This may involve spiritual retraining,
attitude adjustments, improvisation, adaptation and fortitude in order to
overcome this wounds perceived impact.
- Bad
choices – These wounds are inflicted by the selfish, stupid
and impulsive choices we or someone close to us frequently make. Sometimes
people we have no connection will make this kind of choice and the result
will also impact our life. These wounds (decisions) often lead to painful
consequences. When these wounds begin to hurt, the resulting pain tends to
make us search for someone to blame for the mess we are in the midst of
dealing with and not always finding that person because it is often us. If
we could go back and make a different decision, most of us would do so
because the resulting pain is usually our own fault. Often the only way
for these wounds to heal is by moving forward in Jesus Christ
- Verbal
wounds – “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words
will never hurt me…” Oh if that were only true. We have all heard that as
children and when we are talking about others, or listening to the gossip
about someone else, we espouse that philosophy still as adults. But don’t
let anybody say something about us. When their verbal grenades explode in
our vicinity and impact our lives, perceived reputations or welfare, God
help those who hurled them when we recover. It doesn’t matter if the
assault was intentional or unintentional, random or premeditated; the
words cut us to the core. Sometimes the silence of a relationship leads to
verbal wounds and can be just as isolating and painful. The absence of
words imparts feelings of abandonment and unworthiness. These wounds are
discouraging and lead to feelings of rejection that can steal our
confidence and depression. These wounds make us feel ridiculed and
sometimes even steal our dreams. They can have a lasting impact if
untreated.
- Social
wounds – These wounds are often the easiest to ignore because
we have a tendency to deny their presence. A common treatment for these
wounds is to say, “I don’t care what people think of me.” Another
treatment is the “I don’t need anybody” Treatment. It is a fact that the
first step to making a wound fatal is to use one of those treatments that
ignores the damage it is doing. These
wounds are usually indicated by feelings of humiliation, exclusion,
belittlement and disrespect. Remember the fox that said the grapes were
sour really wanted them. Don’t overlook a wound just because you think it
shouldn’t bother you.
- Family
wounds – Any wound is accompanied by pain, but the pain from a
family wound can often be unbearable. You expect support and compassion
from your parents, spouse and children and when their actions inflict
wounds they are devastating. It is not unknown for these types of wounds
to be life threatening. These wounds are also applicable to the Law
Enforcement and Military families because of the very tight bonds of
brotherhood formed by those of us who live our lives bound by such loyalty
and tradition.
- Spiritual
wounds - These might be called “friendly fire” wounds.
When a Christian, congregation or fellowship is the inflictor of the
wound, the victim can easily feel that the wound was inflicted in
accordance with God’s will. We need to remember that God does not wound
us. However, to many of us discipline is always translated punishment.
These wounds often seem like a curse because they came at the hands of the
clergy or a fellow believer. After all who can fight with God and if He is
against us who can be for us? This alone should be a wake up call for the
church to train more spiritual corpsmen and train them who to give the
proper spiritual treatments. We also need to train the rest of the church
on the proper use of their primary weapon, the Bible. Many of them do more
harm than good with that weapon because they are poorly trained in its
use. That unfamiliarity has injured many a lost person as well as a saved
brother.
- Financial
wounds – A key responsibility in our culture is that a man
will and can care for his family. The need for financial help is for some
of us a critical incident that can trigger many other feelings of
inadequacy. This sense of failure that he has not proven himself capable
burdens him and blocks his way with other feelings such as guilt, humiliation
and self-reproach. Getting members of the body past their need is a real
duty of the church. If the church cannot take care of its own: Who will?
And how can they take care of the lost? Compassion and being a good
steward begin at the Cross and the Cross is in Church.
- Occupational
wounds – This was until recent times primarily a male wound,
You see men frequently wrap up their identity in their occupation. When
meeting some other male for the first time, the first question we tend to
ask is what they do for a living. When we are unemployed, laid off,
downsized, ignored, passed over, or fired the resulting wound is
traumatic. We often feel harassed, minimized, abused, disrespected and
powerless to change the circumstances.
- Emotional
wounds – All the previous wounds contain an emotional
component at some level. Sometimes we get so wrapped around the axel with
the emotional component, that it becomes the infection and the cause is
lost behind this “virtual” emotional wound, requiring its treatment before
the original wound can be identified and treated. This generally requires
a seasoned counselor to provide the correct diagnosis.
Well that is a quick down and dirty on the types of wounds
we might be encountering as we continue our study dealing with God’s wounded
warriors. Next time we will go a little farther and start our triage by asking
ourselves a question or two.
Chaplain Fairman
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